“I ‘have’ to work late” & Valuing Life

“I have to work late.”

I hear clients say that when they tell me they’re intending to cancel a session.

And I wonder – do you really “have” to work late? Or are you just letting someone else’s desire or request come before your personal health?

And I wonder this authentically. I used to tell myself “I have to work late” all the time when I worked for non-profit organizations. “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done…we’re short staffed and I have to help…only just this once…if I say ‘no thanks’ will my boss fire me?” The versions of “I have to work late” are many.  Ah, to think of all the missed dinners with friends; the missed sunsets; the missed times with my partner. One can not re-do, so I do not regret as much as use those experiences as motivation to not make the same choice again.

My practice (and suggestion) is:

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Joy Meditation & Practice

Connect to more joy in your life. These are recordings of a guided meditation (12 minutes) and a brief talk on spiritual practice (5 minutes) intended to help bring more joy into your life.

Joy, as I experience and talk about it, is an internally-realized, deeply felt, long-lasting sense of appreciation for being alive (and is different from “happiness,” which generally arises out of response to external stimuli and is short-lived).

The recording is part of a foll0w-up conference call to a 3-day retreat, but hopefully helpful to anyone who listens!


MEDITATION: (I suggest sitting in a comfortable position that will also help keep you awake, and to take 10 conscious, deep breaths before beginning the meditation)




Our Inspiring Presence – with Gratitude

When you pass on from life in this body, and people gather to remember you and what they learned from you being in their life, what will they say?

That can be a challenging question to seriously consider – we generally want to avoid the idea. But being honestly aware of it can inspire the way we live. Perhaps we’ll appreciate the moment more, consider sharing more love than hate or gossip, and maybe help others more often.

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I Am Creative

A friend said to me: “I’m not very creative, which is why I’m a medical analyst.”

And I thought – you are very creative. Consider all the words you put together to speak  a message to me. Or the food you put together to eat. Oh – and look at how you keep putting one foot in front of another to create a journey. Fancy that.

Every one of us is extremely creative.

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Every Moment We Are Choosing

You are choosing to read this right now. You are choosing to be where you are. Every waking moment of every day, we are choosing. We are making choices. And even when we (think we) are not choosing what we’re doing, we’re still choosing our reaction to it.

Yes, choosing our reaction. Emotions move through us. Thoughts move through us. And WE CHOOSE which emotions and which thoughts to focus on. Sometimes it seems like they are controlling us. Really, we’re choosing. Don’t believe me? Continue reading “Every Moment We Are Choosing”

Transformation Comes Through One Decision at a Time

Change can feel challenging. Especially when we’re making the change of being more of ourselves; expressing ourselves more authentically. We may become overwhelmed with our thoughts about, “What’ll happen if I do this, or that…?” “How will others react?” “What else will I have to change because of this?

Change can bring unknowns. Yes.

AND, there are things that you DO know:

You’re breathing.
You’re thinking.
Your heart is working.
And these things probably mean that you’re alive.
You have food to eat and air to breathe – so you you have support from Life for being alive.
You have folks like me and others you can call on for support.

Yes, you may feel alone. That’s how it sometimes feels inside that shell you’re in the process of growing out of… Continue reading “Transformation Comes Through One Decision at a Time”