Brene’ Brown suggests that we see connection – and key to experiencing it is:
* Believing we are worthy of love and connection
* Being vulnerable – being and showing who we really are, rather than some “perfect” self we think we should be. This is a courageous and compassionate way of living.
And I would add – it takes practice.
Continue reading “The Power of Vulnerability”
I’ve lived my life predominantly under a cloud of self-protection. In some darkness. Some hiding.
It’s a natural response to the world for some people. As kids, particularly sensitive children, we hold our breath or body to protect ourselves from the bombardment of stimuli from the world, including arguing parents or unexpected barking dogs, etc.
Constriction is not bad. Left unconscious, though, it can leave patterns of stress and pain in the body-mind.
Continue reading “Protect or Express: Our Choice”
When I feel an ache, I could be angry with my body for not feeling “good.”
That’s not particularly helpful, because then I’m feeling achey AND angry.
So I looked for another perspective, and it came to me. When I’m feeling an ache or a stretch, that’s because my body is opening. The ache or stretch feeling lets me know my body is opening.
And then I feel grateful!
PRACTICE: The next time you feel an ache, slow down, breathe, noticing the ache, and imagine the area opening and stretching. Choose gratitude!
I practice yoga and each day it seems I discover a new ache. Yoga helps to alleviate a lot of my run-of-the-mill aches, thank goodness. But once in a while this idea comes to me that I’m “getting old.” More and more people I see in public seem to be getting younger, too!
I’ve realized that age is relative and somewhat flexible. Continue reading “My Body Is Not “Old” – it’s Well Enjoyed”
Marriage is a microcosm of some of our must fundamental endeavors as a humanity.
One of the biggest things people want? To belong.
And one of the biggest things values codes and religions try to teach? How to get along with others. In addition to giving life meaning. (Whether or not you practice a religion or spirituality, they have influenced culture and the nature of relationships – and ceremonies!)
A Marriage can represent all of this.
Continue reading “Why Marriage/Commitment is Helpful”
Is there anything more valuable than presence?
Actually BEING here. Experiencing life. Rather than experiencing what we “think” about life; what we think about the past; our future thinking…
Presence. It’s so fundamental. So easy to overlook.
And so important….
Continue reading “Nothing more Valuable than Presence”
I’ve found that, as I pay more attention to the present moment, the question of “Why?” has become less important.
Why is the sky blue? Why does this flourless chocolate cake taste so good? They can be helpful questions to explore and many such questions have probably launched whole lifetimes of discovery.
But for me, now, I find that I’d rather explore:
What does this cake taste like?
Continue reading “What? and How? win over Why?”